#SmallBizChat Interview with Melinda Emerson


Melinda Emerson, known to many as “SmallBizLady,” is a Veteran Entrepreneur, Small Business Coach and Social Media Strategist who hosts #SmallBizChat weekly on Twitter for emerging entrepreneurs. This Twitter talk shows takes place every Wednesday on Twitter from 8-9pm ET. I had the pleasure and privilege of being Melinda’s guest last week. This is excerpted from my interview:
Smallbizlady: What’s the difference between a vision and a dream in business?

Paul Wilson Jr: I’ve heard it said that a vision is a dream with a deadline. A dream is all about creating a mental picture that stretches the boundaries of your imagination for what you believe is possible. A (business) vision brings clarity, specificity, and direction to the dream.

Smallbizlady: Where do you find inspiration to dream big in business?


Paul Wilson Jr: Faith in God. Other big dreamers. Vision boards. Imagining the benefits and results of the lives that my business is targeted to reach. Driving through areas of the city that I want to see transformed. Praying for the people that I want to impact. In essence, putting myself in situations to have my mind stretched, including different types of learning environments, listening to those who inspire me, reading books, and other things.

Smallbizlady: How do you shift from dreaming big to doing big things in your business?

Paul Wilson Jr: Vision without execution leads to frustration. One vision is often a combination of many (complimentary) ideas. List all the different ideas needed to realize your vision. Choose one to work on first and build your business plan for that. Implement, grow, and perfect that idea and then build on it with another complimentary idea going through the same process.

Smallbizlady: What is one key of success for implementing a big dream?

Paul Wilson Jr: One key to long-term business success is that there’s alignment and congruency between the vision of the business and the dream/mission/purpose of the individual.

Smallbizlady: How can you ensure that your life plan is aligned with your business plan?

Paul Wilson Jr: Your business plan should be an outgrowth of your life plan. This also ensures that you’re in the right business for the right reasons.

Smallbizlady: How can you assess if your business is the right fit for your life plan?

Paul Wilson Jr: Evaluate and assess the alignment of three things in relation to your business: 1) Your purpose, your passions, and your professional skills. 2) Your purpose involves your personal vision, mission, and values. 3) Your passions are key areas that drive and stretch you to be excellent – no matter what it takes. Your professional skills combine your talents, knowledge, education, experience, etc.

Smallbizlady: What hinders big dreamers from having successful businesses?

Paul Wilson Jr: The person is more important than the plan. Don’t get intoxicated with the dream and then not be willing to following through on the execution to implement it. The best business plan is only as good as the people who are executing it. Develop yourself so that you are the best person you can be to execute your business plan.

Smallbizlady: How do you keep doubts out of your dreams?

Paul Wilson Jr: For some people dreaming can inadvertently cause doubt when you stop dreaming and starting thinking about all the reasons why you can’t do something. Reverse that with thinking about all the reasons you CAN do it. Dominate your doubts or your doubts will dominate you.

Smallbizlady: How do you overcome F.E.A.R. in order to dream big in business?

Paul Wilson Jr: Focus your thoughts in a positive direction – for me it’s God’s power. Evaluate your obstacles thoroughly to assess their validity. Attack the enemies “in-a-me” (silence the negative voices). Respond to the challenge.

Smallbizlady: How do you ensure long-term sustainability of your big business dream?

Paul Wilson Jr: It’s not about you – it’s about what you leave for someone else to build on. That’s legacy. Build a business where you are focused on the size of your significance versus the significance of your size.

If you found this interview helpful please purchase my book, Dream B.I.G. in 3D: How to Pursue a Bold, Innovative, God-Inspired Life! You can buy it at www.DreamBIGin3D.com.

Thrive on purpose,
Paul Wilson, Jr.
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Is Your Passion Stale?

Passion is a fuel that drives us to experience bold, creative, energetic, influential, and fulfilling lives. When your passion is stale, it’s easy to get frustrated, discouraged, and off-track.

If you’re not living your best life it could be that your passion is stale. Check these practical tips to reignite your passion so you can rejuvenate your life and move forward to do the things you were created to do.

Thrive on purpose,
Paul Wilson Jr

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Gain powerful and practical insights from dynamic leaders, catalysts, and influencers who are making theirs and others dreams come true!

Learn more about the Dream B.I.G in 3D Leaders Symposium on June 19, 2010For more details please visit www.PaulWilsonJr.com


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Let Your Customers Choose What They Want to Pay

A Panera Bread Co. restaurant in St. Louis, that was converted to a non-profit cafe, is allowing customers to choose what they want to pay for their meals. The owners came up with this innovative approach as a way to give back to their community. Cashiers show customers what their order costs and then allows them to pay what they want or can afford. Those who can’t pay are asked to donate their time. The owners are not sure if it will be profitable but they are willing to test people’s generosity to find out.

What do you think of this business model? Could you try something like this with your business?

Click here for the full article on USAToday.com

Thrive on Purpose,
Paul Wilson, Jr.


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Compete or Quit!

Former San Diego Chargers DB Antonio Cromartie

At this time of year hard core football fans are looking for any whiff of the pigskin to keep their appetite for the gridiron satiated. That’s one reason why the NFL Draft, which happened a few weeks, gets so much attention and publicity.

One of the most coveted positions that NFL teams look to draft are defensive backs (DB), the ones charged with covering the offensive players who are typically the fastest players on the field – wide receivers. This is one of the hardest positions to play in football because you have to defend against some of the best athletes in all of sports.

I remember playing DB growing up and it wasn’t always fun, because getting beat for a long touchdown pass by a wide receiver can be demoralizing. Nevertheless, one thing our coaches would always stress was, “compete on every play!” This meant trying your best every single play with no excuses. It didn’t matter how talented the other player was -or how untalented I wasn’t – I had a responsibility to fight, press, push, and anything else I could (within the rules) to keep the receiver from getting the ball. If I wasn’t going to compete on every play, my coach wasn’t going to let me play!

As I think about my football experience I can see how this DB mentality is very relevant to our daily lives. Here’s how…

  1. Give your best effort in every situation. Desire and effort often trump talent. Even if your technique isn’t right, at least give 110% effort. Semi-talented players who work and have good technique will beat out super-talented players who are lazy. Don’t be lazy with your talent and do everything you can to make up for the lack of it.
  2. Put yourself in a position to win. Practice your technique. Stay in shape. Learn as much as possible. Become the expert. When you’re doing the right things usually good things will happen for you.
  3. Have a short memory. DBs have to forget about the last play – whether good or bad, because the next one is coming. You can’t celebrate too long for something good or get down on yourself for something bad, because your team is still counting on you to do well in the future. Learn quickly and get ready to try again.

Everybody has an excuse for why they don’t put forth their best efforts. Unfortunately, excuses are like armpits – everybody has them and they all stink!

In life you have to play hard and you have to play to win… or you might as well not play.

Thrive on Purpose,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Tackle the Temptation of Fear

Fear can be a deadly temptation… because it is the silent killer of dreams. Unfortunately the silent fear within our minds is the most dangerous.

Silent fear disguised as negativity is like a confidence cancer that slowly devours a person’s creativity and productivity. It starts off innocently enough as little concerns, but then grows to doubts, worry, anxiety, apprehension, paralysis, and finally creative/emotional/mental death of the aspiration. Sadly, as the dream dies the person is no longer in position to reach their potential.

This doesn’t have to be you. Watch this video to learn 4 crucial steps to conquer F.E.A.R. in your life…

Make sure the voice of your faith is louder than the voice of your fears. Don’t allow yourself to be bound to the incarceration of anxiety. Break free from the dream killer to achieve all that God has purposed for you.

Need help tackling the temptation of fear? Click here to learn more.

What did  you think about the video? What do you do to conquer your fears?

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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What Is Your Dream Worth?

Can you turn a $35 investment into a million dollar dream? I don’t know. But I do know that you will never achieve a dream worth anything if you don’t invest your time, talents, and money into your personal development.

You probably spent more than $35 on your dinner last Sunday. When was the last time you spent that much on your personal development towards your dream?

Stop wasting money on things that won’t last. Invest in something that will… such as a life accelerating experience that will propel you to closer to your purpose and your dreams. Please join me at my Dream B.I.G. in 3D Live! Workshop on Saturday, April 17 in Marietta, GA. Click here to learn more and register.

When was the last time you invested significantly into your dream? How did it turn out?

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Dare to dream again in 2010!

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You Are A Perfect (Mis)Fit!

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous – how well I know it.” ~ Psalm 139:14

It’s amazing how far some people will go to try to fit into roles or relationships that were never meant for them. An extreme example is the MTV show, MADE. Participants – typically people who have a poor self-image and see themselves as misfits – are completely transformed into their “dream persona”, usually someone famous.

As crazy as that might sound, on a daily basis millions of people – who also see themselves as misfits – make much more subtle attempts to wedge themselves into things that are ill-fitting, frustrating, uncomfortable, and ultimately unfulfilling. Whether through appearance, attitude, or activities, they are trying to fit their circle identity into someone else’s square opportunity.

People often pursue this path when they don’t have a good understanding of their unique identity and purpose. This allows them to easily fall into the trap of trying to mimic someone or something that doesn’t align with God’s original intent for their lives.

It’s ok if you feel like a misfit in people’s eyes, because you’re a perfect fit in God’s. But you will continue to feel like a misfit if you focus more on people’s expectations rather than God’s expertise. Realize that you’re a perfect fit for what He designed you for; you’re a misfit for what people resign you to.

I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” ~ Matthew 11:30

Only the creator of something can fully understand its purpose and perfect use. Other people, though, may have their own plans and expectations for you based on their own flawed perceptions. This could apply to a job, business venture, or even a relationship. Regardless, God’s plans for you are perfectly suited to how He created you. So stop trying to force-fit yourself into something you weren’t created for.

Need help understanding how you are a perfect fit for God’s purposes? Please join me at my Dream B.I.G. in 3D Live! Workshop on Saturday, April 17 in Marietta, GA. Click here to learn more.

God created you uniquely, expertly, beautifully and strategically. Stop wasting time trying to be something that you’re not or do something that you weren’t created to do.

How are you a perfect (mis)fit? What are you doing with His masterpiece? How do you embrace your uniqueness?

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Idea Incubators Change the World!

What do you do with the ideas that come to your mind? Do you discard them or do you develop them? Do you dismiss them as random thoughts or pursue them to see how far they could go?

One common link between people who have had a significant impact on the world is they took simple concepts and then enhanced and expanded them. Whether in technology, law, civil rights, media, education, sports, and many other areas, world changers are idea incubators.

Idea incubators take simple ideas and then nurture, develop, enhance, and expand them into incredible realities that have a profound impact on people, communities, and nations. They don’t just conceive great ideas, they execute them!

Ideas are plentiful, but idea incubators are not. You will never maximize your potential and fulfill your purpose if you don’t learn to develop the ideas that you receive.

Don’t die with dormant ideas inside you. If you have been unsuccessful transforming your ideas into reality, why not join me at the Dream B.I.G. in 3D Live! Workshop on Saturday, April 17 in Marietta, GA? I will help you become an effective idea incubator who can have a positive influence on everyone connected to you. You’ve got nothing to lose. Click here to learn more.

I want to hear about what’s stopping you from doing your dreams. Click here for a short poll. Thanks!

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Dare to dream again in 2010!

Register for the Dream B.I.G in 3D Live Workshop! on April 17, 2010For more details please visit www.PaulWilsonJr.com


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5 Keys to Keep L.A.S.E.R. Focus on Your Vision

As a leader I often hear people say that you need to have “laser focus” in order to accomplish anything significant. But other than needing to really concentrate your efforts on your objective, what else does “laser focus” mean?

Here are five practical tips for keeping L.A.S.E.R. focus on your vision, so you can accomplish the incredible dream God has put in your heart…

  1. Lock in on your core idea: Keep your passion pointed in a precise and positive direction. It’s easy to get distracted by the peripheral bells and whistles of your vision. Always remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. Don’t get preoccupied by what’s enticing yet not essential.
  2. Activate your imagination everyday: Sometimes it can be easy to become uninspired when we get stuck in the often less-than-glamorous daily routines of living out our vision. Do something everyday to keep your creative juices flowing so they don’t get stagnant and you don’t get stale.
  3. Stimulate others with your vision: If you can do it all by yourself it’s too small. B.I.G. dreams get heavy. Attract a good team of people to help you carry it.
  4. Eliminate doubt and doubters: Fear feeds futility, but faith fuels fabulous outcomes. Stay connected to God and with people who see the vision and can help keep your faith fueled.
  5. REST your body and mind regularly: Many days it doesn’t look like any progress is being made toward your vision. And if you’re not careful “dream fatigue” – stress – can set in when you are inordinately obsessed with trying to make it happen on your own (see Dangers of “Idol Dreams”). Periodically take time to relax, refresh, and renew. It’s a long journey. Remember huge skyscrapers are not built overnight, and neither are big visions.

Your vision is precious. Keeping the right kind of focus on it will allow you to achieve it in the right way with the right people at the right time.

Need help developing L.A.S.E.R. focus for your vision? Please join me at my Dream B.I.G. in 3D Live! Workshop on Saturday, April 17 in Marietta, GA. Click here to learn more.

What do you think about these points? How do you keep “laser focus” on your vision?

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Dare to dream again in 2010!

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Your Dream Doesn’t Have To Be A Fairy Tale…

Dreams don’t happen without drive and determination. It’s time to add some actions to your aspirations. One of those actions is to find someone who can give you a kick in the aspirations to propel you forward in your life.

Many people make excuses for what they haven’t accomplished in their lives. Usually their expectations are bigger than their appetite for execution.

Don’t let that be said of you. If you have been unsuccessful getting your dreams out of your head and into your life, maybe it’s time to try a different approach. Why not join me at the Dream B.I.G. in 3D Live! Workshop on Saturday, April 17 in Marietta, GA? You’ve got nothing to lose. Click here to learn more.

I want to hear about what’s stopping you from doing your dreams. Click here for a quick poll. Thanks!

Sweet dreams,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Dare to dream again in 2010!

Register for the Dream B.I.G in 3D Live Workshop! on April 17, 2010For more details please visit www.PaulWilsonJr.com


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